95 - cards
When a man comments almost daily ok daily about the things I wear. What does that mean? His comments so far.
'you look great today'
'you must have the best wardrobe, you always look good in so many things you wear'
'i like your shoes' .... uh oh?!!? lol
'whats the occasion today? you look absolutely phenomenal'
'you have the best taste in clothes'
'always so put together'
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DS some of us were ordering food I saw you walk by and wanted to ask if you wanted anything
D247 Hmmm no thank you I think Im all right
DS well, I saw you and wanted to stop you to ask
D247 that was nice of you, what are you ordering
DS I think they want to order Chinese
D247 hmmm neat I think im good
DS You sure?
D247 yes... well... Ive had lunch, what are you having for desert?
DS (looks at me) then around him and back me, smiles winks and walks away
Ill admit to not knowing much about men :) I wont assume that I do. I always go in thinking Im clueless and just know basic human nature. I enjoy the differences between men and women. There are some things that I know and a lot of things that I dont.
These are just some things that happen to me that I think are interesting and make me wonder. Like I said before. Im the last person to find out that someone is interested in me. I know people are nice to those they like. BUT I think I am nice to everyone, whether I like them or not. So to me its hard to distinguish when people are nice because they are showing an interest. Or just plain being nice.
I think there should be a policy. If people are intrested in other people they should have a sign or a card, saying I am interested. So the niceness isnt confused with interest. I propose this for all men and women. Just tell them.
Now the hard part would be the reaction and tact thats involved with delivering the reaction. That will be easier and more delicate than handing out a card.. lol more thought needs to be put into how to deal with fragile egos.
Maybe I dont know as much as I thought I did.
'you look great today'
'you must have the best wardrobe, you always look good in so many things you wear'
'i like your shoes' .... uh oh?!!? lol
'whats the occasion today? you look absolutely phenomenal'
'you have the best taste in clothes'
'always so put together'
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DS some of us were ordering food I saw you walk by and wanted to ask if you wanted anything
D247 Hmmm no thank you I think Im all right
DS well, I saw you and wanted to stop you to ask
D247 that was nice of you, what are you ordering
DS I think they want to order Chinese
D247 hmmm neat I think im good
DS You sure?
D247 yes... well... Ive had lunch, what are you having for desert?
DS (looks at me) then around him and back me, smiles winks and walks away
Ill admit to not knowing much about men :) I wont assume that I do. I always go in thinking Im clueless and just know basic human nature. I enjoy the differences between men and women. There are some things that I know and a lot of things that I dont.
These are just some things that happen to me that I think are interesting and make me wonder. Like I said before. Im the last person to find out that someone is interested in me. I know people are nice to those they like. BUT I think I am nice to everyone, whether I like them or not. So to me its hard to distinguish when people are nice because they are showing an interest. Or just plain being nice.
I think there should be a policy. If people are intrested in other people they should have a sign or a card, saying I am interested. So the niceness isnt confused with interest. I propose this for all men and women. Just tell them.
Now the hard part would be the reaction and tact thats involved with delivering the reaction. That will be easier and more delicate than handing out a card.. lol more thought needs to be put into how to deal with fragile egos.
Maybe I dont know as much as I thought I did.
posted by darling @ 6:18 PM
5 Comments:
At October 08, 2006 4:27 PM,
Brewster said…
LOL I have always felt that. Instead of wearing your heart on your sleeve like I do too often, it would be so much easier if there were a way to let others know your intentions.
By the way, 3 months as of today. :-( I am starting to see that there is a pattern forming.
At October 09, 2006 10:24 PM,
darling said…
Brewster!
It would make things soo much easier! lol Im glad you and I agree on this issue.
OMG time is not flying that fast! 3 ?? Hugs!! How can I help? *blush*
At October 09, 2006 11:36 PM,
Frank Nemecek said…
Okay - as far as the question that started this blog entry - if a man comments on how much he likes your outfit that often, he's either a) an aspiring fashion designer or b) he's seriously interested in you and trying to work up the nerve to ask you out.
Believe me, it may sound easy, but actually working up the nerve to ask a beautiful woman out on a date takes some doing; especially if you haven't done it in awhile.
Anyway, if you are interested in this guy, you might want to throw him a lifeline. Mention a couple of hobbies that you have (it might give him an idea of an event to invite you to - thereby making the whole thing slightly easier).
And if you have absolutely no interest in this guy then dropping a reference or two about your "boyfriend" into a conversation should get him to leave you alone. You don't even have to have a boyfriend, just mention him once or twice in a conversation.
Oh, and if you're really good with PhotoShop, you can even create a photo to stick by your desk with you and some randomn guy off the internet; thereby adding credibility to your boyfriend story.
Just my 2 cents worth.
At October 10, 2006 2:06 PM,
darling said…
Hello Frank! :)
I agree it takes a lot of courage for anyone to go up to someone not knowing how things will turn out.
A lifeline. (Does he get to phone a friend JK lol) I think thats a good idea.
An imaginary boyfriend :) Ill use my Saturday mind filler *smile* Good idea!
If things get so far as me needing a phot on my desk. Ill call in a favor and have someone look at me adoringly, lovingly and very much like he wants in my pants... knowing hes allowed.
Thanks Frank, hope things are going well.
At October 10, 2006 4:55 PM,
Frank Nemecek said…
He can a phone a friend to figure out which event he should invite you to. But if he needs it to figure out that you've just thrown him a lifeline, you don't really want to bother with him afterall.
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