192 - disclosure good or bad

I had dinner with someone a few months back. Wasn't totally attracted to them but there was great conversation. I didn't make an effort to call however I continued to get emails from this man. The restaurant had great food though. I hate to say Ive yet to return there, but I plan on it, maybe Ill go there next time with one of my girlfriends.

Me being polite I would reply with all things non committal. I was vague and I thought screamed not interested. He didn't get that vibe. Instead he continued to keep in touch. I don't know what propelled me. I gave him my number. I don't even think I ever gave it to him, but he has it now and I told him to call me sometime in the evenings as that would be the best time to reach me and if I was perchance occupied at the time I would let him know.

What does he do. The little eager beaver. Calls me at 4pm while I am still at work. I tell him that and he says 'oh I thought Id call cause I am stuck in traffic.' Not winning any points with me. So I tell him it would be more convenient if he calls in about an hour while I am not at work.

No call. No worries. I was on my way out to meet a girlfriend to watch the Sens-Devils hockey game. Sens won 3 - 2 whoo hoo!! We had some wine and sugar free cheese cake which was really good. She got caught up in what she calls the Drama of Darlings life. She seems to think that D can be a contender for the position of Significant Other. I laughed and told her to wait until I tell her about the rest of the soup, and the reason she thinks that is because hes constant/regular at the moment.

I told her that D and I had a brief conversation and that neither of us were looking for a 'relationship' which was good. Another conversation brought up that he wasn't the only person I was seeing/sleeping with(though in D and I have never slept together). He didn't say anything like OMG that's not right or... cool. So its understood and its been put out there.

I didn't even sugar coat it just said it out loud and told him that its only right that it doesn't come as a surprise and it comes from me. We had sex again after I told him.

Hes still around and continues to be interested. If him calling and texting me is an indication of interest that is.

As I am woman, I will contemplate and think. After that. The thinking will be done and then Ill just... do. Things are going well. Were planning on going on a road trip tonight after work. Casino run in New York State somewhere. About an hour and half drive. I told him I might be sleeping. He said how can you sleep with my finger inside you? HA I wonder if he was joking. AHEM!! That was TMI. I apologize.

So its been a while. I don't date, if Ive had a conversation with him about not wanting a relationship. Can this lead to that? Possible but not planning on it. I figure that Ill just enjoy it for what it is at the moment. I don't want to think of what ifs, or double meanings when there isn't anything else meant by something.

So Ill just enjoy it as it is and really just keep on doing what I am doing. It seems to be working just fine. Why mess up a good thing right? Now Im wondering about disclosure and if it is good or bad. That could be its own post.